Normal..

With Monday comes the customary, “How was your weekend?” I didn’t know how else to describe it but exceptionally normal. “Normal”…

I went to a Dosh concert on Friday night at the Triple Rock, made a hilarious deal there which I cannot yet reveal, and had maybe one too many Blue Moons.

On Saturday, I read a book on addiction (to romance, sex, and relationships) and thanked god I did not fit any of the described profiles. I fell asleep while reading this incredibly boring book…played phone tag w. a friend and eventually met him up at the movie theatre to see ‘Rambo’. Yes, Rambo! I had to say yes, simply out of nostalgia.

I met a friend at Applebee’s for a couple of beers afterwards. He listened to me go on about work, family, stuff… he talked about school, family, friends…women… discovered that he loves “expensive women” and that “expensive women” loooved him. He told me stories all night about the women who’ve used him and screwed him. To this I nodded my head. “Do you want my honest opinion?” I asked. “Not yet” he said. I hope he lets me talk him out of buying an $1,100 purse next time.. Women do not need $1,100 purses. Especially if they are not your girlfriends.

On Sunday, I worked out, I met my best friend up for lunch, I had coffee/tea with an old friend from high school/college...

It was just…. Nice. Lovely to not be preoccupied, to be relaxed, to do what I wanted to do, to not be working, and so on.. It was like how weekends should be..

I'll say it again..

I think I'd like to learn how to play the guitar so I can decorate my own soul instead of waiting for someone else to play the guitar for me...

Commited, comschmitted..

As made obvious in my latest post, I am still employed by Walgreens. I didn't keep my job because of the 15% discount or the mere $62/month. The truth is: I like my co-workers, I feel bad for leaving, and sometimes I feel like they need me.

I offered to come in this morning to train a fellow co-worker how to do what I do... I woke up early and typed out the entire process. What I do there isn't hard, mostly it is just tedious, redundant, and long. More importantly, previous to today I was one of only three people in that entire store who knew how to do it. Now there are four! If you're thinking, "how big can your store be? Why can't the others take over?" Well, store managers and senior sim coordinators have better things to do than 4-hour long cigarette inventory/counts. Know what I mean? I may as well have been the only one who knew how. When I handed over that doc, I passed the torch. This is a huge step!

Let's get back on track...

I walked in this morning and was presented with a 5-year anniversary pin to put on my vest. Come February, I will have been working at Walgreens for five years! My manager said something like... "You know what Sylvie, I don't get to work with you or see you anymore. I just wanted to tell you that... I miss you. You are a great worker and we appreciate you, even if it's just once a month." It was heartwarming :) I can certainly name a few people I can live without, but for the most part I like them all.

So? What's with me and being loyal to work? I have attachment issues. I must..

It's not just work, it's with a lot of things. Romantic attachments, for instance. Classic. And I won't even go there.

I'm tired of playing games and biting my tongue.

Group Therapy 01-08-08

KDWB has a segment called Group Therapy every Tuesday on the Dave Ryan in the Morning Show where people can submit their problems and get feedback/advice from morning listeners.

Today’s group therapy session was appalling! This guy Chris had been paying the car payments on his girlfriend’s car for the last ten months, he let her move in rent-free, yet had suspicions about her cheating. He’s a self-proclaimed nice guy who wanted to treat her with respect to defy her previous stints with asshole boyfriends and drug dealers. Sure enough, he overhears her whispery-baby talk conversation with another man and tells her this cannot go on anymore. So I guess she calls him some choice names, yells at him for eavesdropping, storms out, and later that night, boldly sends graphic pictures via cell phone of her and her ex-boyfriend in bed. Chris is wondering: What to do? I still care for her. Why would she do this to me? I know I didn’t deserve this.

Well Chris, I don’t have any be-all, end-all answers for ya. I have personally known of one too many relationships that mirrored these kinds of shenanigans (paying for bf’s rent/car/gifts while he cheats not once, not twice, but many more times than that, knowing your girl is sleeping with you and another, catching your significant other in your bed with another). They’re so common that I bet ya you don’t know who I’m talking about, could be anyone!

First of all, Chris should have never made those car payments and should have never let her move in without expectations that she’d be faithful, that she’d contribute to rent someday, one day, something. And no, sex is not enough. Of course, said expectations do not guarantee fidelity. The woman held jobs “on and off” she was “hot” and “kind of wild.” He knew she had the potential to be a cruel bitch, it just had never been aimed at him.

This blog isn’t really going anywhere, I apologize... It just riles me up because it is soooooo ridiculous. Plain and simple: the woman is a wreck and will get what’s coming to her, especially once she gets jerked up again, fail to make her car payments, needs a place to stay, etc. The guy needs to move on and take this experience as a lesson learned too well.

I think we all need a crappy-ass relationship at least once in our lives. Lucky if it passes you over. I’m glad for mine but even happierrrr that it is long over.

Women…should never expect to be taken care of with money and security. Men…should never think money is the key to keeping a woman. By the same token, men should also never expect to be taken care of and women should never think this is the way to keeping a man! Or by any other means, I guess—a child, for instance. Money should never be the leading factor in any relationship, neither should status or security.

Man or woman…it makes me sick to think about people taking advantage of other people, using people, cheating, screwing with each other’s lives. Sadly, this happens all too often~

Let’s conclude. Dude is wondering: What to do? I still care for her. Why would she do this to me? I know I didn’t deserve this.

Cut her off financially, to start. Stay friends if you still care but please keep your distance and make yourself accountable for not letting her back in. Owe your best friend $500 if you ever take her back. The woman is clearly poison to you and to herself. Why would she do this to you? It’s pure bitch behavior. Bia’s got to go.